Unfortunately, lying occurs frequently in relationships. The truth is that we’re all occasionally guilty of not telling the whole truth, whether it’s through white lies, outright lies, or lying by omission.
But males appear to have a particularly awful reputation for lying to their spouses, with expressions like “men are dogs” and “guys are such liars” frequently heard in our vernacular.
How come guys lie?
In the end, males lie because they think it will help them protect women (and themselves).
He lies most often to keep you satisfied with your idealized perception of him. As strange as it may seem, he lies to you because he cares about you and wants to save you the pain and suffering that would come from being wounded or angry.
A person may lie out of self-preservation as well. When someone lies to you, it usually signifies that he is conscious of the possibility that the truth about anything he has done, hasn’t done, is contemplating doing, or feels could end your relationship.
Unfortunately, as we know all too well, uncovering a lie hurts you anyway.
Top 10 lies men tell and what they mean
1. Men lie about staying late at work.
2. They lie about their phones.
3. Men lie about female friends.
4. They lie about their motives.
5. Men lie about their intentions.
6. Men lie about knowing someone.
7. They lie about being busy.
8. Men lie about making a commitment.
9. They lie about leaving someone for you.
10. Men lie about loving you.
How can you know when a man is lying?
Knowing the most typical lies men tell will help you see the telltale signals of a man who is lying.
Diana Raab, MFA, Ph.D., an author, lecturer, and educator, claims there are seven telltale signals that someone is lying to you:
- Changes in vocal pitch.
- Unusual blinking or fidgeting.
- The use of fewer first-person words such as “I”.
- A decreased tendency to use emotional words, such as hurt or angry.
- Difficulty making eye contact when speaking, or shifty eyes.
- The use of self-soothing techniques such as ear tugging, neck touching, collar pulling, or mouth covering.
- Inconsistent gestures or facial expressions that contrast with message content.